The other day I went and cycled over to see my Grandma, as she is 96 and bed ridden at this moment in time and loosing the will to live as she is in so much discomfort with her tummy, other bodily aches and pains and piles (squatting on the toilet avoids piles when going to the loo. Squatting stools if you struggle, can help.)
Earlier in 2014 I managed to do the Be Activated treatment on her, I received her permission, she had not been able to get out of bed and unfortunately had a bad tummy a few days previous.
So I worked on her using the activations trying not to cause too much pain, got her breathing better……… next day my Dad get’s a call from his brother to tell him about their Mum sitting up in bed by herself and going on the commode and then back to bed all by herself! Wow that was amazing my Grandma did that after I worked on her, awesome!……… but alas when I saw her the other day I offered to work on her and she turned me down…….. I know this treatment can be uncomfortable or painful (it is your pain that you don’t know about!) I know if I could of got her to breathe into her belly she would of felt better, she isn’t sleeping well, scared to breathe in the belly of fear of needing the toilet……. stuck in this cycle of stress and fear just wanting it to stop, depressed and clearly wanting to die…….. I can help her but only if she will let me, however she doesn’t want my help at the moment so nothing more I can do for her until she changes her mind.
Do you know how stress affects you?
You might be aware of stress in your life and how it affects you from symptoms of stress, headaches, worrying, tiredness, lack of sleep, always getting the latest cold or flu/man-flu (yes it is real I have had it and I am a woman! ;) ) needing stimulants like coffee to make it through the day, alcohol or watching TV shows to help you wind down, waking up feeling like you never slept, tight shoulders, incontinence or needing the toilet frequently if you drink to much water, shoulder and neck pain, lower back pain, general aches and niggles. You might know that you don’t know how this stress is impacting on your body and life, you get bad shoulders or neck whilst at work sat at your desk all day and it stresses you out but you may not be aware that makes it harder for you to focus on your job or task at hand! Same with any bodily discomfort or emotional worries it ends up in the catch 22 situation!
Catch 22 you are stressed and then you worry about what’s stressing you, body discomfort, emotional discomfort, work issues which adds more stress into your day or evening when you try to relax. So it just ends up going in circles, to a point that stress is just normal in your life and is normalised!
So we don’t know how stressed out we really are and that becomes a “normal” level of tolerance, then more stress piles on top that becomes a “normal” level so our lives just keep piling it up and not knowing that there is a wonderful relaxation normal rest and recovery and high performing state we can live our life from!
Image shows in red the natural fluctuations at the beginning from the Sympathetic State - Stress Stated to the Parasympathetic State - Rest Recovery Relaxation and High Performance/Functioning State.
During our lives we stop dropping all the way back down into the parasympathetic state and just fluctuate in the sympathetic state which takes toll on our body physically and our state of mind! What we don’t know is that we can drop back down into the rest recovery relaxation and high performing state with the Be Activated treatments.
Some like the image shows drop down small step by small step, others make massive drops back down into the recovery state, we are all different and how we work together during a session has it affects on how much reduction of stress and pain we get, so some can take longer and others quicker. With my Grandma, that time, she dropped down a few steps which enabled her to do things that were previously impossible for her to do due to the pain and fear, which was shifted for a little while!
The only true stress release I have found is the Be Activated treatments, that get the parasympathetic drop, which allows the body to start functioning as it is supposed to do naturally from the 123 pattern. It has helped me massively in my life and continues to do so, always learning with it.
So if you would like to reduce your stress in life and get better performance at work and home, less pain, better sports performance then why don’t you book a free 30 minute consultation to see if we are right to work together and what goals you want to achieve then email me, Em at firstname.lastname@example.org
Coming soon blogs that explain the sympathetic and parasympathetic state, what the body needs, more safety in our shit, what you don't know you don't know, 123 movement, breathing, body is amazing........
Just my musings.....